爱不是贪婪Love Is Not Greed
先指出你的一个误区。“进化”这个概念跟你这辈子已经没什么关系了，你并不是一直会趋向更健康、更美貌的人，如果你的期待增长了，也不是因为进化。所以不要把这个想成你不可抗拒的本性。
诚然，爱美之心人皆有之，随着眼界开阔可能我们想要的东西会越来越多，然而一个人越成熟也越懂得满足，越懂得自己的界限。很多人在追求更高更快更强的路上失败了，甚至死的体无完肤，有一部分原因是，他们过分贪婪了。
然而这些都跟爱没关系。爱是人与人之间一种相互依赖、相互赞赏、相互陪伴、相互守护的感觉，这种人际关系的追求并不被物质磨灭，只是人容易迷失在物质中，而忽视了人心，而迷失在物质中，并非成熟，而是贪婪，“我要我要我还要”的贪婪而已。人生观烂掉了而已。根本不是成熟。
把你的眼睛从物质层面挪开一点，把你的眼睛从生物本性上移开一点，既然你想要爱，就请你重视人，重视你自己的内心体验，和别人的内心体验。
Let me first point out one of your misconceptions. The idea of “evolution” has nothing more to do with the rest of your life: you are not forever trending toward becoming healthier or more beautiful, and if your expectations have grown, that isn’t evolution either. So don’t imagine this as some irresistible part of your nature.
True, everyone loves what is beautiful, and as our horizons widen we may want more and more. Yet the more mature a person is, the more they understand contentment, and the more they understand their own limits. Many people fail on the road to higher, faster, stronger (some are even ruined beyond recognition), and part of the reason is that they were too greedy.
But none of this has anything to do with love. Love is a feeling between people: mutual dependence, mutual admiration, mutual company, mutual protection. This pursuit of human connection is not worn away by material things; it is only that people easily lose themselves in the material and neglect the human heart. And to lose yourself in the material is not maturity but greed, the greed of “I want, I want, I want still more.” It is only a rotted outlook on life. It is not maturity at all.
Move your eyes a little away from the material plane; move your eyes a little away from your biological nature. Since it is love you want, then value people: value your own inner experience, and the inner experience of others.
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